What Happened to the Adage of Don't Talk To or Go Anywhere With Strangers?

It's funny how far adults will go to talk to a stranger. It's one thing if you're networking at a party and you randomly introduce yourself to people as a means of gaining contacts. It's another if you're randomly picking up women to get into their pants. I remember my parents drilling my brother and I as kids on how not to talk to strangers and don't ever go anywhere with a stranger. No matter what the situation was I was definitely scared after watching the movie Adam back in the early '80's. I was scared to death, knowing that a stranger could walk up to me and lure me with candy or pull me into a car.

As an adult the same situation applies. I refuse to go anywhere with someone I don't know. While in the club a few weeks back, a man came up to me and asked me if I was having a good time. "Yes, this is a great party, nice atmosphere and cool people." The next thing that came out of his mouth was "Do you want to go home with me?" I looked at him like he was dropped on his head as a baby and just didn't have it all upstairs. "Do I know you? Why would I go somewhere with a total stranger?" Do you know what his lame excuse was? "We're both adults." I went on to tell him that his lame excuse had nothing to do with the price of tea in China.

Then I went as far as to break it down to him because he was so clueless as to why I was so disgusted at his attempt to woo me. "You didn't ask me my name and you don't know me from a hole in the wall. Why would you risk your safety just to knock boots with a stranger?" I could see the disappointment in his face as he started to turn red. "What if I were a psycho chick who you brought home and I decided to set you up or even what if i were to cut your throat?" He didn't like that at all. "I want to give you a few words of advice, when you approach a woman, don't be so overbearing, it's a turnoff. I know that as a grown man you have it in you to approach a woman in a polite manner. After I lectured him on how to be soft in his approach, he rolled his eyes and stepped off mad at the fact that I wouldn't go home with a total stranger. Then I thought to myself, obviously chicks do go home with him if he felt the need to step to women in this fashion. If that one woman didn't say "yes" then he wouldn't think he can go around asking women to go home with him. Maybe he thougnt he was flattering a sista, but I shut that down real quick. As he walked away he was mouthing something to me, but of course I couldn't hear over the loud music. Give me a break, you're mad because I had to break it down to a grown man who should know better even as an adult not to go anywhere with a stranger? As the world gets crazier and more blasphemous, people still put themselves at risk. Smdh.


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Do Guys Really Move on After the Breakup?

It's always assumed that guys move on faster than women after a serious breakup. Serious meaning a serious relationship for at least a year or more. Has the dating game become different for the sexes in terms of who sulks more after the "it's not you, it's me" line? Having recently spoken to a friend who I haven't heard from in about a year, I asked her what was the deal with her boyfriend she had been dating for four years. By now he was her "ex" and she exclaimed that he was trying to hold on to something that wasn't there anymore-the relationship. They apparently broken up because of his alleged cheating habits. What was more amusing was the fact that her "ex" was delusional about the whole break up and was calling on the regular like nothing happened. The kicker was whe she told him that she had moved on with her life and that she was serious about her current interest well before his delusional state set in. Delusional is the perfect word to describe him because he shed dry tears and whimpered like a baby when he found her new flame's number on her missed calls on the Blackberry.
Why was he searching you ask? Who knows. The same reason why women go snooping around in their man's phone, pants, jacket pockets and Jansport's, just to find something they know they dont want to see and get to crying and asking-"why you do me like this". Can a dude handle the fact that his old girlfriend has moved on and isn't concerned with blowing up his phone? Is the old addage true that men don't have as much emotion when it comes to the breakup? Or do you guys just hold it all in for show and then break their peace while in their comfort zone? Are the roles now reversed? Are women starting to act like men now and if so is it too much to handle? Personally I don't think it's the worst thing in the world for a man to express his hurt but please don't start crying and weeping like it's the end of the world.
Maybe this old school Milli Vanilli song can help ease the pain:

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